Turn Your ROLEPLAY Into A High Performing Machine
But there is a strong predisposition to think that this may turn out awkward. You are not an actor, neither is your partner. You don’t necessarily have that verbal spontaneity to know what to say in any circumstance, even when you are yourself. How would you do it when you are somebody else? And to exchange only a few phrases from the chosen character for the roleplay and then have sex is lousy. Who can be turned on by failure? Certainly not you.
So should you still try role-play? Definitely yes, if you have some fantasy in this regard. And why not even if you are just looking to spice things up a little bit.
Here is your guide to have an awesome experience even if you are a (sceptical) total beginner.
How to have the conversation about roleplay
If you are reading about how to roleplay because your partner already suggested it to you feel free to skip this part. But if it is your idea and your significant other doesn’t know about it yet, you will need to have a conversation.
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I don’t mean to scare you off from the very beginning, but there is a chance that this conversation will tense up your relationship, if it is not properly held. Especially if things haven’t been too great lately, coming up with this proposal may sound like you have a hidden agenda. Instead of being open to it, your partner might become defensive.
Try to avoid making a big introduction or to present the idea in the same context as the relationship problems you experience (be it sexual routine or something else).
How you can say it: Wow, you look so sexy with this plaid shirt! I have this fantasy in which I am your teacher and you are seated on the bench, wearing your plaid shirt, looking at me mischievously. I would become painfully horny, so of course you would get detention!
No matter what you say find a good context, tell it in association with something positive, as a compliment, keep it playful and feel free to go into more detail if you feel like it. And after you see your partner’s reaction, you can ask in a more serious tone if she would like to try it out at some point. The word play might seem harmful, but roleplay might sound a little bit threatening.
How to think about the roles
The biggest mistake one can make when considering roleplay is to just pick a scenario and stop, thinking that there is nothing more to it. Deciding that one is going to be the teacher and the other will be the student doesn’t give too much information about the forthcoming scenario.
If you start like this things will probably end quickly and it will not be very rewarding. Even if you know what to say, there are chances that your partner has a very different image of a sexy teacher-student interaction. And you will just end up disappointed that your partner ruined the experience or simply didn’t understand the fantasy.
Roles need to come with some context, characters need to have personalities. These personalities are in fact allowing you to experience something different and kill the threatening routine.
Deciding the context
Let’s take a closer look at some possible contexts for a teacher-student roleplay. First of all, decide on the educational environment: college, university or maybe summer school. Then decide what will be the teacher’s subject. A good idea is that whoever will be in this position should have at least a clue about the chosen subject. Getting laid with your quantum physics professor might sound hot, but if he doesn’t even know what it means just forget it. And finally decide on time and space. It can be private lessons at the teacher’s home, at college or anything else you can imagine (you just have to keep in mind that it should make sense that it is just the two of you).
While thinking about the setting, don’t forget about costumes! These will enhance the illusion of reality for your play, so it is good to improvise from what you have or you can even purchase something (in)appropriate. Sexy costumes from specialized shops or websites will further spice up things.
Choosing who you are turning into
And now let’s talk about the personalities. Most of the possible scenarios allow you to introduce a dominant figure and a submissive figure. If this is your thing, there is no need to search anymore. This option is easy to put into practice because there is no need for too much coordination, the dominant one is responsible to lead the play.
But if you are creative, you can find lots of other possibilities starting from one role-play scenario. Let’s see a few for example: the geek virgin boy and the hot female teacher that initiates him, the shy peasant girl and the charismatic teacher who aims to pervert her, the constant brat and the teacher who gives her a lesson etc.
You can even think of characters from movies or series who you find hot and then build your characters to have their personalities. Instead of acting a teacher, you can become Professor Snape.
Making these choices from the beginning will give you and your partner time to fantasize about and get into your roles. Be sure to decide on something that will please both of you and talk about what is allowed and what is strictly out of question.
When and how to start role playing?
A hot idea about how to start your roleplay is to send a message with the information, using email or phone communication.
One example would be:
Dear Helen,
I am expecting you tomorrow, at 6pm for your Math tuition.
Consider this is a last warning, if you are not more cooperative this time, there will be consequences.
Professor John White
No matter how you do it, choose the time when you will start with 1-2 days before you plan the roleplay and stick with it. This will make it seem somehow official.
And after it all begins, try to give the roleplay the chance to naturally and gradually lead to its expected outcome – that you have sex. Don’t rush into it and spoil all this beautiful planning and character build-up you made.
Easy scenarios for roleplay
And now let me inspire you with this list of scenarios from where you can start to elaborate your own story:
- The secretary and the boss;
- The prisoner and the guard;
- The nurse and the patient;
- The one-night stand;
- The librarian and the bookworm;
- The sports coach and the athlete;
- The sultan and the slave girl from the harem;
- The director and the actress;
- The repairmen and the homeowner;
- The policeman/woman and the law infringer.
Some of these options can be used not only to spice up your sexual life, but also to enrich your regular common experiences by adding a sexy dimension to them.
If you are going to practice a sport anyway, why wouldn’t you try to play the coach and athlete scenario once in a while? Or if one of you has a cold, why not go for the nurse and the patient and make the shitty period bearable?
Roleplays can be really hot if you are patient enough to set up the scene. But even if it all fails and you end up enacting a low budget porn movie, the experience may still turn out to be valuable for you as a couple. Just the attempt may be enough to kill the routine.
A student of life and probably for life. She likes putting theory into practice and to challenge norms. Currently on a mission to understand human behavior and interaction. Always on the lookout for the next challenge.