Talk dirty to me: Why women love it in bed
Why women love dirty talking and why men love listening to them. How to initiate dirty talking, what to say and how to respond to dirty talking
If you think the be all and end all of what really goes on inside a woman’s head starts and ends with 50 shades, think again! For those of us older women ‘in the know’, you only have to go back to 1973 when Nancy Friday launched her book ‘My Secret Garden’ to a somewhat stunned global audience, that it was even accepted that women really did have sexual fantasies, just like men. In fact, not only that but women actually thought about sex and all those endless fantasies way more than men. Whether or not the fantasies were really sent in by the said women, isn’t really the point, it was the fact they were published and they were gritty, to the point and shocking to many. You mention the authors name and ‘Alsatian’ in the same sentence to anyone that has read the book, proves the point.
Women are an awful lot dirtier in the mind than men think, or perhaps like to think. Why is it then, that men prefer to seek company of a professional ‘fucktress’ rather than that of their wife or lover? Confused between wife, lover and mother perhaps …. listen guys get over it please, us women have some seriously horny fuck talk just screaming (or maybe moaning) to get out and believe me once you get deep and honest with your partner, it will improve your sex life no end!
Women are an awful lot dirtier in the mind than men think, or perhaps like to think. Why is it then, that men prefer to seek company of a professional ‘fucktress’ rather than that of their wife or lover? Confused between wife, lover and mother perhaps …. listen guys get over it please, us women have some seriously horny fuck talk just screaming (or maybe moaning) to get out and believe me once you get deep and honest with your partner, it will improve your sex life no end!
How to initiate Dirty Talk with Women
So what kind of Dirty Talk are we talking about and how exactly do you find out if your partner is really interested? The last thing you want is to scream ‘I’m going to Fuck you so hard baby’, only to find out your partner suffers from SCA (yes there is a term for someone who has a phobia about dirty/sex talk, it’s called Sexual Communication Apprehension).
Just saying Fuck a lot isn’t necessarily going to help either but it could be a good starting point which you can try before you get down to the nitty gritty stuff. If you are unsure whether she’s up for the full on deluge of dirty phrases you’ve got stored up, try a different approach to start. For example, ‘You look absolutely fucking amazing’ will normally produce the desired reaction, if she’s into dirty talk. ‘You look so fucking amazing, I really want to fuck you senseless’ will take a willing partner one step closer to surrendering and engaging in naughty, dirty talk.
Asking questions which don’t require lengthy responses also helps, especially if your partner is a little nervous or shy as it gives them a starting point.
Do you want me to bend you over and take you right now?
Guess where I want to put this?
Do you want me to fuck you harder?
Where would you like me to put this right now?
Any of the above can be used to provoke a response, even if it’s just one word to start.
Using Key Words
It’s a good idea to know the kinds of words your partner uses and/or would be willing to use during Sex. It’s no good asking her where she wants you to put your ‘dick’ when she always refers to it as ‘cock’ or if you start calling her pussy, her love-hole, she may not reciprocate. Just starting with a few basics usually works the best and once you are both more comfortable, you can build up your repertoire from there.
The Basics to the Downright Filthy (Dirty Talk Women Love)
Wow, that is soooo good?
Touch me there, yes again and again
Do you like it when I do that?
Does that feel good?
Do that again please but harder/deeper/faster
You’re really enjoying this aren’t you?
Wow, you’re so wet, it really turns me on.
How hard do you want me to fuck you?
Bend over bitch!
Fuck me NOW!
Once you have introduced some of the key words into your sex life, your partner will start to reciprocate and it won’t be long before even the merest glimpse of her opening her mouth to speak will have you throbbing and exploding together.
Remember though, Dirty Talk should only be between the two of you and not a discussion to be having in the pub, at work or with family and friends. It’s a personal thing between you and your partner. Don’t ruin the trust and chance to have a completely incredible Dirty Talk fuelled orgasm, just because you bragged about your partners latest filth filled comment just before she went down on you! The only exception to that rule is if you want to tell me, I’d love to hear your experiences on the best Dirty Talk you’ve ever heard for our next article but no names please!
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