Try Something Kinky if You Want Better Sex

Let’s get one thing straight right from the start, being interested in Kinky Sex doesn’t mean you are into porn. Though to be honest one persons kink is anothers porn, as for some even having sex with the light on is considered pretty raunchy.

So before we start to delve into the world of kinky sex, I do want to make it clear that you don’t need to panic and get all flustered. We’re going to give you an insight into spicing up your sex life and having much better sex, not instructions on how to get ready for your starring role in the next big adult movie.



Keeping a check on your sex life is one of the most important parts of a relationship, especially in the early stages when the initial passion has started to lose some of its spark. Ignoring it can result in never being able to rekindle the fire and eventually you’ll be headed towards a break up instead of being able to delve even deeper into each others desires.

The biggest mistake that many men can make is assuming that kinky sex is only something you can find on the internet or worse still something you have to pay for. For some reason they believe that their wife or partner wouldn’t be happy partaking in some non missionary actions.

Guys, get real!



A great majority of women think about kinky sex on a daily basis and are actually one of the main instigators of introducing sex toys into the bedroom. If you think about it, your partner is going to be far more uptight if she caught you in ‘Private Browsing’ mode than she would be if you suggested browsing a sex toy site so you can both have better sex.

Adult shops have become much more mainstream and acceptable in this day and age with the most famous brands even appearing in our high streets and shopping centres. Branded toys are openly discussed in sit coms and women feel able to talk about them with their friends and even hold parties in the comfort of their own home so they, along with their friends can purchase them.

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So how and when exactly do you start the conversation with your partner in order to get an idea of the type of Kinky Sex you can introduce to spice up your sex life?

Firstly, you must bear in mind that timing is all important. It’s not the kind of conversation you want to start when either you or your partner have had a bad day at work, or if either of you are tired. You need to pick the moment very carefully and make absolutely sure you don’t sound like you’re desperate.

Secondly we need to break this down into areas of kinkiness which don’t seem like you and your partner have just stepped into a world of porn as in fact many couples engage in ‘kinky’ style sex without even realising it. So let’s look at different areas of Kink which ultimately mean you can indulge in Better Sex.

Voyeurism



Voyeuristic activities involve both those which are aimed at watching and those were you watch. Seeing a couple have sex in a adult movie is voyeuristic in itself and is a pleasure to both men and women alike.

Guys, don’t get all tied up in the fact that it’s only guys that get turned on watching sexual acts, there are as many women that get turned on as there are men, in fact some surveys say women enjoy it more. It doesn’t always have to involve actually seeing the act, it can also simply be the fact that you may get caught in the act which is the pleasure booster. This is why ‘Dogging’ became such a big thing as it catered for those not only involved in actually performing sexual acts but also those watching.

Of course the idea of getting caught is extremely arousing for some and perhaps would put the fear of dread in others. However, remember you can get just as much excitement from having sex on your dining room table - can the neighbors see in? Performing oral sex on your partner in a car park – will anyone happen by? Having sex in the surf on a deserted beach – how deserted is it really?

The only thing you really need to consider is whether or not you are actually breaking the law.

Remember that a bit of touchy feely here and there won’t cause you anywhere near the same amount of problems as having full blown sexual intercourse. So indulge your desires whenever you feel in the mood, or think she is in the mood and it’s bound to result in better sex for you both. Give her a little teasing spank as she walks past you in the bar or restaurant, slip your hand up her skirt (under the table) when you think no one is looking and show her that whatever anyone else thinks, she means the world to you and you to her.

Fantasy



Probably one of the biggest turn ons in any relationship is the world of fantasy. But, do remember that it doesn’t mean you are able to fantasise about anything you feel like. She really isn’t going to want to know that you go to bed each night thinking about that brunette you saw in the bar last week, or the latest hotty on Instagram. It means embracing the characteristics of each others fantasies and making the most of them if you want better sex.

One little trick is to listen out, or watch for hints (especially useful if you don’t feel like you can come straight out and ask her). What kind of actors interest her, which celebrities is she into and most importantly why. Remember it’s easier to ask her why she prefers Chris Hemsworth over Keanu Reeves for example than ask her who her ultimate fantasy man is. Listen out for clues such as things to do with their personality and who they mainly portray as actors and then work a scenario from that.

Roleplay



Roleplay is the next step on from Fantasy and a great way to explore each others fantasies in a totally guilt free manner. You have the freedom to become someone else whom either your partner or you have dreamed of being.

Let’s be clear here, you don’t have to set a blaze to become that amazingingly dreamy fireman she’s always lusted after and you do need to be careful if you are going to attempt a firemans lift. She will however appreciate any chivalrous act, as a step towards being ‘saved’ in this fantasy and the more time you spend discussing the roles each of you will play, the more you’ll realise that most of it can simply happen inside your heads.

Cosplay


Moving further into the world of role play and fantasy, you can try some cosplay where your roles also incorporate a look that goes with the fantasy you are acting out. Some of the more common such as Waiter/Waitress, Doctor/Nurse, Teacher/Head are pretty easy to accomplish in the safety and comfort of your own home. They don’t even require any specific clothing to start with, just a bit of imagination and a willingness to use a little bit of fantasy and to be able to indulge in the play.

Go Shopping




Although I’ve left this until last, it’s probably the easiest method of all to better sex and having much more fun in or out of the bedroom. You can go and visit your local adult shop or better still, stay at home and shop on line. Many of the on line shops are now geared towards women and are not those seedy, somewhat grimey looking places aimed at the dirty rainmac brigade, whose main aim was to sell porn. They are full of pink, fluffy handcuffs, stylised vibrators and sexy underwear that actually come in proper sizes.

Even just spending a little time looking through the sites will bring a buzz to your bedroom antics and when you feel brave enough to actually order something, remember it really does still arrive in plain non-descript packaging.

Above all try and have fun in (or out) of the bedroom and bear in mind always, that if you don’t ever explore, you’ll never know. Take it slowly and be honest with each other and you’ll have much better sex.