Pet Names: Yay or Nay?
A question each man will have to answer at least once in their lifetime. From the softies to the machos, at some point a girl will call you a cute pet name and you will have to decide on the spot whether to reciprocate or not. Because that moment and answer will define how you refer to each other from that point onwards.
You’ve definitely been in this situation in the past. Usually a girl you’ve been dating for a while starts calling you a pet name, something cute and in most cases annoying. It can derive from an actual word or it can be a total nonsense. Nevertheless, the pressing question is whether you reciprocate or not?
According to psychologists it is normal to develop pet names over the passage of time. Babe can be readily transformed to bae, bubba, babelicious etc. According to a survey there has been a 16% increase in the US and 9% in Europe of couples using pet names as a medium to increase relationship satisfaction. Most people will consider this survey as lame and cringy but in reality, we all have been there at some time in the past, either calling our other half with a cute or kinky pet name or having been called one (#noshame).
The couples who do use them seem happier and more fulfilled in comparison to other twosomes. Unless they are using the cringiest of all pet names: “daddy”, which is only acceptable or hot in the bedroom. Note: there are some pet names only destined for sex, it’s not acceptable calling your girl “bad girl” or “hottie” out in public.
Women have testified, in various articles, that having a pet name for the other half makes them feel closer and more connected to them. When the other half reciprocates, they feel more appreciated and loved.
Let’s dig a little bit deeper, shall we?
Pet names are indicators of a certain level of comfortability with one another and trust. Forming your own little language signals deep connection even if your pet names are rather weird, they belong to you as a couple.
Also, in the early stages of a relationship, it can be a good sign whether the other half is feeling confident in you and perhaps falling for you. Normal people don’t use pet names for relative strangers for whom they have zero or few feelings for. When you feel comfortable enough to use them is always relative. Each person has a different threshold which should be respected. One guy can call his girl “baby doll” after 3 dates and another after a year.
Pet names are often used in the privacy of your bedroom, especially if they are dirty, but in general they are not spoken out loud in public. The reason is that there is still shaming in calling your girl “cutie pie” around your friends. But why should you? These names you develop together are meant only for each other and should not be a public declaration on social media or in your group of friends.
If you are a pet name virgin, I would suggest you wait for the girl to call you one first. You can answer back with something that either matches or maybe the female version of it. For example, if she calls you “cowboy” you can respond back with “cowgirl”. Some like my “world”, “chubby bunny”, “love” and all are non-gender specific hence good for beginners.
Additionally, if you don’t really like the pet name your girlfriend chooses for you, suggest one you feel comfortable with. Something that boosts your confidence and makes you feel like the biggest man out there. From “my iconic man” to “boss boy”, anything that makes your heart pump with pride or your penis harder, ask to be called by that. It will help with your self-value and potentially improve your sexual performance (feeling confident definitely does the trick).
And, the next time girl you’ve been dating for a while calls you with a cute little pet name, congratulations you have definitely won her heart! On the other hand, if you only want her for casual sex, you better start running cause she’s obviously falling for you.
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