Dating Apps: A Breakdown
If you are still wondering whether you should create a profile on a dating app read the follow Breakdown. Who knows, we might change your mind.
In the age of technology one can’t help but wonder: To subscribe or not? That is the question!
Hamlet asked the question about life or death. Nowadays, we don’t usually ponder as much about these type of theoretical questions, instead we usually focus on matters closer to our heart. Who doesn’t think about love, sex, lust, companionship and maybe even marriage? Typically men don’t look for serious relationships, this the stereotype. Nevertheless, dating app statistics indicate quite the contrary. Obviously there are people logging in purely for sex (both men and women) but there is still a good percentage from both sexes who create an online dating app profile in the hopes of finding their soulmate or at least an affair to remember.
Believe it or not, even today, there are people who consider using a dating app as pathetic and desperate, which indicates that it’s still a taboo. I am not going to preach for or against it (at least not in this article), but if you need to find your soulmate or just a random hook-up and you can’t manage on your own, why not give it a go? After all the millennium is an era for the adventurous, daring go-getters of this world; at least that’s what we were told on the eve of 2000. That and the fact the world will end pretty soon, but I will choose to focus on the first predictions.
Not everybody is super sociable or extremely extrovert which means that meeting new people, even at a bar, (probably the most sociable place of all possible places) has become extremely difficult. Maybe it’s the fact that people have become more distant over time or more accurately because everybody is glued to their phones and they don’t have the time/willpower to lift their heads up from the screen. Plus, you can’t possibly know, whether the person you’re making googling eyes at is even single. Most likely, if a girl is in a serious relationship she won’t even be on a dating app. Hence, your chances of striking out are minimized.
One of the few ways a woman in the digital age will even pay attention, is when her dating app signals that there is a match nearby. Sad but true. Once Tinder lights up, one can instantly observe heads going up. Therefore, if a man wants to meet his future soulmate or just have some casual sex, inevitably he will have to create an iconic profile on the dating app of his choice. I am stressing the fact that the profile has to be iconic in order to attract the best matches.
I am the sort of person who will try something at least once hence I had to investigate what goes down when using a couple of apps. I do invite you to search into as many as possible for more, as there is a plethora available to you nowadays.
For those of you who live in the guilty-free contemporary world there are various dating apps which you could use. From the most popular of them all Tinder and Bumble to alternative ones like Coffee meets Bagel and Do I date or paid ones such as EliteSingles and Match.com or LGBT-friendly such as Grindr and OKCupid, there are a plethora of selections, depending on what you are looking for and essentially for who you are as a person.
I suggest you download at least 3 different ones and create similar profiles on all of them. Be truthful, otherwise, at the end of the day when your date arrives and you don’t look like Brad Pitt what are you going to do? Or even worse, what if your date is on more than one app too? For instance, you claimed in PlentyOfFish to be a doctor and in OkCupid a Lawyer. It will make you look like a total prat and word will spread fast. You can use some Instagram filters and perhaps Photoshop (everybody does anyway) in order to enhance your exterior but don’t alter it to the point that your match won’t be able to recognise you on the date. Or even worse realise that you’re scum and leaves. That obviously includes lying about your job, where you grew up, where you have travelled etc. You can easily get caught out and it will make you look like a lying sociopath.
Be open with people you wouldn’t normally even consider conversing with and be flirty. They don’t know you and nobody can force you to meet anybody if you don’t want to. But just by chatting you’re improving your social skills and you might just land yourself a date or two. The more you find out about a person beforehand, the less awkward silence moments you will have to deal with on the actual date.
One last tip: Don’t freak yourself out thinking that you aren’t perfect or even worth the date you landed. Go enjoy your time, be honest (but not too much) and if it turns out bad, well at the end of the day it’s only a couple of hours of your life wasted and there is always another app you can try or another match to make. But what if it’s the best date ever?