How to become a Bon Viveur
Not to be confused with the Bon Vivants, Bon Viveur is a gentleman seeking all the pleasures life has to offer, not just the one that fine liquor provides.
You’ve all heard it before (and you probably know what it means) but who really is this legendary man, who manages to live a life full of the ultimate pleasures? Who is this icon that women always seem to adore and how did he achieve such a status?
A Bon Viveur is traditionally a man who enjoys going to parties, eating gourmet food, drinking expensive liquors and gallivanting through life with style. He’s typically classified as a playboy and usually loaded, how else can he afford the exquisite and such exclusive pleasures of life?
Men like Hugh Hefner or Leonardo Di Caprio are definitions of this term. Their Bon Viveur status doesn’t necessarily come from the money they have but from the legendary life they lead (or led in Hugh’s case) and the company they keep. They always look effortlessly chic, each in their own style and they often flash the public with their expensive purchases.
Their legendary status comes from their accomplishments which makes them look like icons to the rest. These men work hard and play even harder. They don’t deny themselves any of lifes pleasures, carnal or otherwise. They live their life to the maximum and at the end of the day (possibly because of the vast amount of money they spend) feel accomplished simply by having everything they want.
How to become a Bon Viveur? How can you achieve this status? True, money is needed. But even if you are not super rich, you can still allow yourself the small pleasures of life such as a good meal and good alcohol (within your budget) in the company of girls. Let's be honest all the Bon Viveurs that come to mind, at least to mine, are always surrounded by beautiful girls.
Have you ever thought about why all the Bon Viveurs are surrounded by stunning women? A Bon Viveur is an interesting personality to talk with. He will talk about his latest whiskey purchase, a cigar he smoked and enjoyed, a new sport he tried out or an adventurous travel destination he recently visited. That’s what makes them legendary, their tastes and experiences. Their narrations make them appealing to the ladies because during dates, rather than speaking about the weather or trying to fill the silence with silly jokes, they actually have a lot of impressive accomplishments to share.
Our practical advice on how to become one, is to assess who is your preferred Bon Viveur. Google his life, observe the way he dresses, watch his interviews. These are some small indicators on how you can become one. Copy the things you like and adapt them to your budget. Not everybody can afford a brand new Dolce & Gabbana tux but you can put one together on sale from outlets . Maybe wait for your favorite wine to have a small discount and then purchase it. Save up to buy that cigar you always dreamt of smoking. Work overtime to go on a date with the girl you like at the fancy restaurant you always dreamt of going to. Go on an off-season holiday (since it’s cheaper) to a destination you wouldn’t normally be able to afford. Plan an adventure like a hike up in the mountains. Walking it’s free, good for your fitness and a great hobby to talk about on dates.
Allow yourself to be fascinated by this lifestyle and work harder to gain the money necessary. This motivation will not only bring you closer to your goal to achieve Bon Viveur status but will probably help you to develop professionally. Have a read through our articles on how to gain more money posted on our Money tab.
Try to surround yourself with people who have achieved the Bon Viveur status. You can usually meet them by joining a club or an association. It doesn’t have to be a super exclusive gentlemens club, it could be a whiskey association for instance. Or if you can’t afford that, you can always choose a writer who inspires you for instance, wait for him to have a book tour near you and go to the meet and greet. If it’s an entrepreneur find tickets to their next TEDx speech. It's important to get a bit closer, being around them will be inspiring for you and if you get close enough, you can benefit by learning a thing or two, not only about their lifestyle but more importantly on how they achieved it.
A Bon Viveur is daring, ruthless and eager to try everything and anything, even if he will fall flat on his face. Anyone can become one with some lifestyle changes. You can become one and who knows maybe afterwards you too, will be considered iconic.
Bon Viveur Checklist:
⤕ Indulge in the luxuries of life
⤕ Travel
⤕ Opt for adventures
⤕ Work harder to afford the best of the best
⤕ Surround yourself with other Bon Viveurs
⤕ Travel
⤕ Opt for adventures
⤕ Work harder to afford the best of the best
⤕ Surround yourself with other Bon Viveurs
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