5 strategies of effortlessly CHARMING MEN - How to ensure you’ll be instantly attractive
Charm is one of the base features of charisma. You will never be a truly charismatic individual if you don’t take charm seriously.
But before I start sounding like a romantic comedy trailer take a step back and think about it. Charm is the alluring side of charisma. The most important side.
It is the constituent that draws people in and projects a more confident and attractive image of your persona.
So you need to learn some of the ways that charming men use their talents when they want to improve.
Not only that but you need to understand that you will never become a great leader, if you don’t know how to use your charm and this lack of knowledge can hamper many of your efforts to better yourself and develop the kind of iconic personality that is a magnet for successful enterprises.
And no matter what you may hear, charm is a trait all of us have. The secret is to unlock and harness its power and use it as a foundation for developing your winning personality.
So why do charming people have it better and how can you become more enchanting and attractive by using simple strategies to improve your game?
Charming your way to the top
We have all seen charming people. They seem to effortlessly work a room while others admire and compliment them. And often they will be called upon first and consider reliable, trustworthy and knowledgeable, right off the bat. They are not necessarily the funniest, smartest, most competent, or best-dressed people in the room. But they can get away with murder. Imagine that you are part of a police detective squad that just cracked down the biggest case ever and, in comes Jake Peralta, from Brooklyn 99, stealing your thunder. The difference is that a comedy show is not the competitive, active, performance-driven setting your life is.
Charming people will always have an edge on everybody else because they are impulsive, seductive creatures. And that needs to be your starting point into motivating yourself to improve this side of your personality. Because, as I previously mentioned, charm is a trait that everybody has but only a few use. Even if you have a truly evil personality being charming will still help. After all the best villains are always the charming ones. The golden rule of a charming personality is Charm yourself first.
It will not only test out your charming methods but it will give you the confidence to display when needs be, the full force of your enticing ways. No matter how many strategies and tips you read, it will all come down to the way you can sell it. Owning your inner charm is not just a good way to do that. It is the only way.
So what are the best strategies that can help you better display your charming personality?
1. Great posture
All charming individuals have great posture and that means a lot of different things in terms of non-verbal language. It is not directed at sitting up straight, not slouching, or wearing clothes that complement the way your body looks when standing. Charming men always find a good posture regardless of whether they are standing, sitting or walking. And that has to do with a very important aspect.
The way the move their chin. Keeping your head up is a sign of confidence, and the way you present your jawline is seen as a sign of masculinity. And it has always been one. Just take the ancient Greek statues, and name a famous one where the protagonist does not have a great chin or at least good cheekbones. Men who know when to keep their chin up appear to be more confident and more assertive than their counterparts, even though in reality they can be as self-aware as the next guy.
The key is knowing when to lift your chin during decisive points of the conversation, and when to lower it during the "Working our way up to conclusion" phase.
This little balancing act will be easy to work out in any conversation and will make people feel more attracted to you, and more naturally inclined they’ll be to regard you as a confident, no-nonsense individual. It will come with an interesting side-effect too. Lifting your chin just a little bit is a more appealing position for the face because it helps define the jawline and creates a slimming effect for the neck region.
2. Learn to bond
Charming men cultivate their charm no matter where they find themselves. This is probably the number one factor in gaining peoples trust and ensuring they are well thought of. Take very popular actors like George Cloney, for example. This man is almost universally liked for a reason. He tries to mimic the behavior of the people he interacts with. And he does that with everyone from journalists to co-stars. He smiles when you smile. Frowns when you frown. And always shows he is genuinely glad to meet you.
Nobody knows or cares if that is the case, but what you should know, is that it works. People will always respond well to a person that seems to have their undivided attention.
Charming means to treat everyone the same way. With a lot of respect and kindness. That is part of the charming man's ability to get away with murder. You simply can not bring yourself to stay upset with a truly charming guy.
Often, people put on a face during social events, or when meeting important individuals. There will be no such thing in a charming man’s DNA. If you want to be seen as a charming, reliable person and build on your confidence, make sure you have an eye for all people regardless of their importance or social standing. And the world will love you for it. Treating your peers, clients or superiors with the same amount appreciation is going to yield enormous benefits.
3. Charming men are never alone
Our social lives and our professional lives are getting more and more indistinguishable. We have great tech and social media to thank for that. But you will have no one to thank if you don’t understand that a charming man can not be a lone wolf. Your charm finds its strength in your ability to communicate and interact with people. The same way a lead singer can not perform properly without his band, you will not be able to exercise your charm on a collective level, if you are not surrounded by the right people.
Charm works better when your magnetism is augmented by more than one listener. And that is not all. People tend to look more attractive and charming when in groups. Because it shows off their great communication skills and makes you look as instinctive and characteristic as possible. To achieve this, always try to agree rather than disagree when in a group. This is a little trick, that will get you a long way. Not only will everyone in the group like you but people outside the group will get the sense that you are a reasonable and collected person, that doesn’t feel the need to prove himself.
So if you want to work on your image and get people to find you as likable and attractive as possible you can not overlook the group factor.
Make sure you relate well to your peers, and business partners, and others will be immediately drawn to you.
4. Physical contact is key
All charming men know that physical contact is key. For some people, this comes naturally in a conversation. Others plan it as a means to set up a different level of connection. What is universally true is that if you want to be perceived as a relaxed, reassuring and non confrontational partner you will have to master the art of touching.
Touching the arm, or shoulder, of the person you are talking to can be a very powerful gesture. And there are two sides to this. First, this kind of interaction is somewhere above your normal handshake and below a friendly hug. That makes the person feel a bit more special than other people, even though you don’t know each other that well, or you just met. Secondly, it increases the chances of getting the result you want. People tend to be more compliant after this kind of interaction and find the person doing the touching more friendly and attractive.
Bear in mind, that you have to use and restrict touching, so as not to look like a salesperson. Don’t touch everybody you meet and don’t do it repeatedly if you feel like you don’t get any results the first time. Under normal circumstances, this gesture will build you up in the eyes of the person you are speaking too, as well as reinforce the sincerity of your words.
Charming people are seen as trustworthy, and introducing touching into your everyday arsenal will only reinforce that. Just make sure your gestures appear natural and are at the right time. So as not to appear fake. Do it while you shake people's hands, after a good punchline, while bumping into acquaintances or excusing yourself to go somewhere else. Always stay relaxed and smile while doing it.
5. The art of the eye contact
We feature this last not because it is not as important as the other strategies, but because it is the hardest to get right. You probably have been told 1000 times that looking people in the eye is a certified, first step, into getting what you want. That is of course true. But to bring that effortlessly charming feel, into any interaction, your eye contact game needs a bit of work.
Because things are not always what you might think. Charming, confident men don’t just eyeball people while having a conversation. The real secret here is how to use just the right amount of eye contact to keep the other person listening and interested. Like a good movie preview, you need to build up the tension between looks, to the point, the most important one underlines the whole purpose of the conversation. The way you do that is to alternate between looking in the eyes and looking away and to gradually increase the exposure time. If you are telling a story to a group of people it is better to exchange looks with all of them from time to time.
The eyes are an important source of information and vulnerability and charming men know that they are one of the best ways to get people attracted to you.
Because basically we're all more likely to do business and build professional and personal relationships with people who can convey honesty and who are polite, modest, agreeable, kind. And eyes are the best non-verbal way to deliver all that information about you.
In the end, don't forget you will never be charming if you don't bring yourself to follow the golden rule. Charm yourself first. Enjoy, and turn all your interactions into familiar, natural and open-hearted affairs. True effortless charm comes from within. Your mission as an iconic man is to tame it and use it to achieve your goals.
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