Learn WHAT WOMEN REALLY WANT IN BED. 5 fail-proof ways to keep her hooked
The age-old question that has plagued mankind for centuries is now easier to answer than you might think. In an age of statistics and graphs is there anything else to discover? Well yes. Not only that there are more things to discover what women want in bed, but now you have more scientific data to guide you on the right track.
If you ever read "Men are from Mars women are from Venus", or at least been around somebody who has, you would know that this idea that men and women are so different they can barely have a relationship, is not what happens in everyday life. In real life men and women pretty much want the same thing. Not all the time, but most times and that is even truer in bed.
The only thing that separates them is how they communicate their desires. And yes, both men and women will communicate their fantasies. They will just use different times to do it. Most often, the wrong times.
So where do we men go wrong about what women want in bed? What are the best things to improve on? And how do you become the best lover she ever had?
You will find all about that, and more, by the end of this article. But first, let’s take a step back and see why you don’t know what women want.
This is not an article about how to trick women into sleeping with you. This is an article about men who want to improve and live a fulfilling and satisfying sex life. Like with all things in life, sex is always in need of improvement. Even the people who have the busiest sex life in the world go all out for the sort of connection that allows them to experiment, improve and enjoy the best experiences possible. That is why as an Iconic man you will need to up your game and make sure you leave a lasting impression. Be the guy that gets remembered for the things he does and not for the things he doesn’t do.
That is quintessential to unlocking women's sexual potential. Before you even think about improving your sex life and making every woman feel like you are the best man she ever had, you need to start by looking at the things you inspire. The number one thing great sex relies on is confidence. Men have it. Women have it. But great sex happens only when you manage to bring it all together.
If you have doubts about your fantasies, or you fail to address them in a laid back, comfortable manner, things will not improve. You will only transfer your insecurities on to your partner. All people smell fear and women will just mirror your hesitant behavior and that will spell a mediocre experience for both of you.
Inspire her to open up in the same way you would open up in front of a confident woman who entices you with both her body and her wits. Think about how Margo Robbie in The Wolf of Wall Street does it. Of course, you would look awful in a blue dress, but you get the point.
I know it sounds like a teenage thing to do, but women do find kissing very inspiring. A woman will always remember a good kiss longer than she will remember mediocre sex. Ask any woman and she will know exactly where she was, and what the weather conditions were like when she was last kissed properly. Kissing is very intimate. It is the kind of affectionate touch that sends a multitude of signals at the same time. It is personal, passionate and connecting, all at the same time. And it really does tell a lot about a person.
Kissing will let you know if you are both on the same page and will build up that connection that all great sex requires. You need to read her body language and anticipate the signs and moves that she expects. It’s a careful high wire walk but you need to let her know that she is wanted and that she will go through the experience of her lifetime. This is the preview you need to build on for a wonderful night. When you kiss a woman, you support her in telling you about her expectations.
Learn to read her body language and take your time. Don’t go all in. Let her feel like you have a response to her every move and touch. Use your whole body. Breakaway and look her in the eye, with a sly smile on your face. Pull your lips away and gently stroke her lower lip with your thumb. Or gently get one hand under her hair, and on to the back of her neck.
And whatever you do, respond to her every move and build upon that emotional connection. Yes, that includes kissing while you enter her.
This is another thing you need to execute to perfection. And perfection is timing, "geographical" awareness and reading the signs. If you think that great oral sex is too vanilla, you are so wrong. 78% of women interviewed for a study on sexual fantasies have identified this as being one of their top desires. That means that not all men are doing it right.
The key is not to rush things. And, why should you? You are there with a beautiful woman. An alien invasion is not likely to occur and unless you are in California, not even wildfire should drag you away. Enjoy yourself and let her know how passionate you feel about your night together. It will not only make you connect emotionally on a whole different level but she will come so hard, her best friend will be hearing about it for the next month.
Make sure you get your timing right. Don’t go for the whole "she did me so I have to do her". Be more spontaneous and learn to interpret all the signs correctly. You will never give her a good orgasm if you are the guy that decides to get a break, or change the technique, when she is almost there. Don't be, the almost there guy. You can not allow that to happen.
Being confident and at ease with your sexuality is a major turn on for many women. It will make you appear as a passionate but level-headed guy who is ready to take some of the burdens from her shoulders. How is that in any way related to domination? Well, remember when you get asked to pick the movie, or the restaurant, on your date? Women don’t do that because they can't make the choice themselves, but because they need a break from all the decision making.
It is the same with women that want to be dominated in bed. Of course, there are other factors involved, but this is the most important and overlooked one. Learn to play your cards right and be the guy that can take all her worries away. The angle is everything, in any power balancing action.
Lead the action by being firm and determined, but leave her enough space to be enticing and sensual. Because she will want you to know how good things are going. Don’t change your voice and try out kinky outfits (not now at least), change your perspective and be the silent type that has it all under control. You know what she needs, and how she needs to get it. She doesn’t have to worry about a thing.
This is one area where confidence can not do all the work. In order to sell it, you need to project control. You need to stop talking about minute details and let her know that your undivided attention is set on walking her through all the bittersweet steps of satisfaction.
Make sure you talk things through before moving on to legit BDSM things. Toys, whips, and ropes are great when both partners have the same thing in mind. Letting go of control like that can be a two-way street. Just as many women might want to be dominating in bed, and maybe you could use a rest.
Yes, I know you are thinking about them. But so do a lot of women. How many? Well according to the most credible studies on female fantasies, about 56% of women have fantasied regarding sex with two men, and about a third of women acknowledged fantasies about having sex with another woman (36.9%). Those numbers seem pretty high, but fantasies are fantasies for a reason. As a 2017 study revealed that only about 10% of women have ever engaged in a threesome.
In market terms, this would mean a great demand that is not satisfied. In sex terms, it means...basically the same.
Some women would love such an experience, and if you provide them with one, you can go straight to the top of the "never forget" list. So how do you go about finding out if this is the kind of thing that she is into? First of all, don’t try the silly way of just blabbing about it when you had too much to drink, don’t ask during sex, and don’t insist. Make it about her. If it is something she wants she will join your innuendos and that will lead to you guys taking threesomes into consideration. Don’t suggest her best friend, or somebody she knows. Studies say that women fantasies about a threesome with somebody they don’t know, rather than close friends. Be smart. Be like the studies.
Getting to know what women want in bed and applying it can seem complicated and disconcerting. But remember it takes two to tango, so your sex will always only be as good as the effort you are prepared to invest in it. Allow yourself to enjoy the moment, feel inspired and passionate. And there will be no limits to what you guys can do.
If you ever read "Men are from Mars women are from Venus", or at least been around somebody who has, you would know that this idea that men and women are so different they can barely have a relationship, is not what happens in everyday life. In real life men and women pretty much want the same thing. Not all the time, but most times and that is even truer in bed.
The only thing that separates them is how they communicate their desires. And yes, both men and women will communicate their fantasies. They will just use different times to do it. Most often, the wrong times.
So where do we men go wrong about what women want in bed? What are the best things to improve on? And how do you become the best lover she ever had?
You will find all about that, and more, by the end of this article. But first, let’s take a step back and see why you don’t know what women want.
This is not an article about how to trick women into sleeping with you. This is an article about men who want to improve and live a fulfilling and satisfying sex life. Like with all things in life, sex is always in need of improvement. Even the people who have the busiest sex life in the world go all out for the sort of connection that allows them to experiment, improve and enjoy the best experiences possible. That is why as an Iconic man you will need to up your game and make sure you leave a lasting impression. Be the guy that gets remembered for the things he does and not for the things he doesn’t do.
1. Inspire to be desired
That is quintessential to unlocking women's sexual potential. Before you even think about improving your sex life and making every woman feel like you are the best man she ever had, you need to start by looking at the things you inspire. The number one thing great sex relies on is confidence. Men have it. Women have it. But great sex happens only when you manage to bring it all together.
If you have doubts about your fantasies, or you fail to address them in a laid back, comfortable manner, things will not improve. You will only transfer your insecurities on to your partner. All people smell fear and women will just mirror your hesitant behavior and that will spell a mediocre experience for both of you.
Inspire her to open up in the same way you would open up in front of a confident woman who entices you with both her body and her wits. Think about how Margo Robbie in The Wolf of Wall Street does it. Of course, you would look awful in a blue dress, but you get the point.
2. Improve your kissing game
I know it sounds like a teenage thing to do, but women do find kissing very inspiring. A woman will always remember a good kiss longer than she will remember mediocre sex. Ask any woman and she will know exactly where she was, and what the weather conditions were like when she was last kissed properly. Kissing is very intimate. It is the kind of affectionate touch that sends a multitude of signals at the same time. It is personal, passionate and connecting, all at the same time. And it really does tell a lot about a person.
Kissing will let you know if you are both on the same page and will build up that connection that all great sex requires. You need to read her body language and anticipate the signs and moves that she expects. It’s a careful high wire walk but you need to let her know that she is wanted and that she will go through the experience of her lifetime. This is the preview you need to build on for a wonderful night. When you kiss a woman, you support her in telling you about her expectations.
Learn to read her body language and take your time. Don’t go all in. Let her feel like you have a response to her every move and touch. Use your whole body. Breakaway and look her in the eye, with a sly smile on your face. Pull your lips away and gently stroke her lower lip with your thumb. Or gently get one hand under her hair, and on to the back of her neck.
And whatever you do, respond to her every move and build upon that emotional connection. Yes, that includes kissing while you enter her.
3. Go down on her
This is another thing you need to execute to perfection. And perfection is timing, "geographical" awareness and reading the signs. If you think that great oral sex is too vanilla, you are so wrong. 78% of women interviewed for a study on sexual fantasies have identified this as being one of their top desires. That means that not all men are doing it right.
The key is not to rush things. And, why should you? You are there with a beautiful woman. An alien invasion is not likely to occur and unless you are in California, not even wildfire should drag you away. Enjoy yourself and let her know how passionate you feel about your night together. It will not only make you connect emotionally on a whole different level but she will come so hard, her best friend will be hearing about it for the next month.
Make sure you get your timing right. Don’t go for the whole "she did me so I have to do her". Be more spontaneous and learn to interpret all the signs correctly. You will never give her a good orgasm if you are the guy that decides to get a break, or change the technique, when she is almost there. Don't be, the almost there guy. You can not allow that to happen.
4. Dominate and conquer
Being confident and at ease with your sexuality is a major turn on for many women. It will make you appear as a passionate but level-headed guy who is ready to take some of the burdens from her shoulders. How is that in any way related to domination? Well, remember when you get asked to pick the movie, or the restaurant, on your date? Women don’t do that because they can't make the choice themselves, but because they need a break from all the decision making.
It is the same with women that want to be dominated in bed. Of course, there are other factors involved, but this is the most important and overlooked one. Learn to play your cards right and be the guy that can take all her worries away. The angle is everything, in any power balancing action.
Lead the action by being firm and determined, but leave her enough space to be enticing and sensual. Because she will want you to know how good things are going. Don’t change your voice and try out kinky outfits (not now at least), change your perspective and be the silent type that has it all under control. You know what she needs, and how she needs to get it. She doesn’t have to worry about a thing.
This is one area where confidence can not do all the work. In order to sell it, you need to project control. You need to stop talking about minute details and let her know that your undivided attention is set on walking her through all the bittersweet steps of satisfaction.
Make sure you talk things through before moving on to legit BDSM things. Toys, whips, and ropes are great when both partners have the same thing in mind. Letting go of control like that can be a two-way street. Just as many women might want to be dominating in bed, and maybe you could use a rest.
5. Threesomes
Yes, I know you are thinking about them. But so do a lot of women. How many? Well according to the most credible studies on female fantasies, about 56% of women have fantasied regarding sex with two men, and about a third of women acknowledged fantasies about having sex with another woman (36.9%). Those numbers seem pretty high, but fantasies are fantasies for a reason. As a 2017 study revealed that only about 10% of women have ever engaged in a threesome.
In market terms, this would mean a great demand that is not satisfied. In sex terms, it means...basically the same.
Some women would love such an experience, and if you provide them with one, you can go straight to the top of the "never forget" list. So how do you go about finding out if this is the kind of thing that she is into? First of all, don’t try the silly way of just blabbing about it when you had too much to drink, don’t ask during sex, and don’t insist. Make it about her. If it is something she wants she will join your innuendos and that will lead to you guys taking threesomes into consideration. Don’t suggest her best friend, or somebody she knows. Studies say that women fantasies about a threesome with somebody they don’t know, rather than close friends. Be smart. Be like the studies.
Getting to know what women want in bed and applying it can seem complicated and disconcerting. But remember it takes two to tango, so your sex will always only be as good as the effort you are prepared to invest in it. Allow yourself to enjoy the moment, feel inspired and passionate. And there will be no limits to what you guys can do.
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