Anniversary getaways to rekindle your love
Romantics say true love lasts a lifetime, Frederic Beigbeder claims love ends after three years while some psychologists coined the term of the seven-year itch, referring to a decline of happiness or intensity after the magical number of years passed.
Whatever love duration theory you prefer, there is not too much debate in the fact that love needs to be periodically rekindled in order to survive. It is just not realistic to expect that everything is pink and sparkly all the time, without working on your happiness or without offering love a right context to manifest itself.
And what a better opportunity to rekindle feelings, spice up things in the bedroom and spend quality time with your significant other than your couple’s anniversary? Anniversaries celebrate the moment you two met or the moment you married and they are charged with the thrilling emotions that once made you choose each other. Even more, like the French philosopher Pascal Bruckner expressed in Paradox of Love, the thing that once made you not only say yes to each other but also say no to all the rest of human beings who populate planet Earth.
This article aims to inspire you on how to spend your anniversary and defeat (at least for some time) the main enemy of long-term love – routine. A romantic getaway will usually do the trick and what follows are a few ideas of some special vacations and their romantic potential.
But keep in mind, the first step for a successful anniversary experience is to not forget the date of your anniversary. As obvious as it sounds, an impressive number of men are still suffering short term amnesia when it comes to this special date in the calendar!
All-inclusive at the seaside
This is the classical idea of a romantic getaway, but its lack of originality is well compensated by the obvious advantages. The sun, the sand, the cocktails by the beach and the luxurious hotel will help you relax and make it easy to enjoy each other. You have minimal chances to fail if you make this proposal, but the scenario works best if you both have very stressful lives and crave moments of peace and comfort.
No need to mention that the possibilities for a sexual rediscovery are endless. You can perhaps try the nudist area of the beach if you’ve never done it before and enjoy your bodies in sight of all the people around. And you can even attract even more intriguing looks with the pretext of applying sun protection on yourselves.
You can go beyond the beaten path, after enjoying the sunset, and get intimate in the middle of the outdoors, with the added adrenaline rush thinking of the possibility of being caught. Or you can spend an entire night by the beach, talking about all the subjects that you were too busy to approach before, hugging each other to keep warm and then catch the sunrise together.
Backpacking outside your comfort zone
If on the contrary you don’t need peace, but adventure (and by this, I mean real adventure!) you could try a backpacking experience that will further bond you as a couple and generate memorable stories. You can go out on a limb and choose that distant land where you always wanted to go or just stay closer to home. All the options will give you the feeling that you participate in The Amazing Race reality show and that you are not only a couple, but a team.
The best thing about this experience is that you will not only travel together, but plan together. Unlike the seaside resort idea, you will always have subjects to discuss beyond yourselves and this might feel extremely comfortable for couples that face communication blocks. After you’ve had a lively conversation about the bus timetables, it might be easier to dive into a long postponed love declaration.
The scenario works best for sociable and adventurous couples. It is more easily perceived as a good plan for youngsters and it might be the best plan for ageing couples experiencing midlife challenges. If you are already passed your youth, backpacking makes you feel young. And you can add extra adventure if you are up for it, by deciding to hitch-hike, sleep in hostels and meet with locals by using the available apps.
Tent escape in the middle of nature
The tent escape idea is kind of a mix between the previous two proposals – you will have both plenty of time alone and some adventure. And beyond this, you will have a very small space which needs to be shared, so you can’t avoid getting closer to each other, both physically and emotionally.
A big advantage of this scenario is that you will not need so many days off from your workplace, the plan works well for a weekend and you don’t even need to go very far away. The practical advantages go even further – it is the lowest budget idea you can think of, especially if you already own the tent. Unless you go glamping of course.
Beyond the more predictable tent sex, you can spice up this idea with outdoor sex. And if you happen to be a little kinkier, don’t forget to bring some rope! But the possibilities are not limited to sexy times. You can learn together about birds or trees or medicinal plants and then engage in birdwatching or picking up the right mushrooms from the forest.
A long cruise where everything can happen. Including nothing
Cruises are romantic, we all know it from the movies. Hopefully not the Titanic kind of romantic, even if this would certainly make for a good story. You will be stuck with your significant other, in the middle of the sea, usually in a small cabin, without the possibility of escape, no matter what happens. You can customize your cruise, based on length, the types of destinations included and themes.
This getaway idea works best if you are both a little bit old fashioned. It can be a very good idea if you tend to be rather impulsive and look for escapes from arguments. Under these circumstances, this is no longer a possibility, so you will be forced to face any inconvenience together. If a long cruise is beyond reach, you can also go for a long trip by train. Should I mention the possibility of a blowjob in a Turkish style toilet? Maybe not…
Erotic getaway in a sexy hotspot
If you already talked about trying something outside the sexual mainstream but you didn’t feel comfortable to go for it in the city you live, you can use your anniversary getaway for this very reason. Having this in mind, you can still enjoy the sights of a different city, the time together and all the excitement of travel.
Be aware though that this experience can make a couple more stable and loving or it could bring further arguments inside your relationship. Don’t go for it unless you have shared in advance your detailed views about how things should go, including any limits you have.
Also, keep in mind that if you want to try BDSM or a swingers club in a foreign country you will need to contact the club beforehand and ask for their access procedures.
That place where you went together and it was so great
Lastly, the most controversial idea about an anniversary getaway is to go to a place from your history, that single place you associate with the peak of your relationship. It might be the place you met or the one where you had your first romantic getaway or any place where you really enjoyed your time together. There is a huge chances for this to turn out both extraordinary and depressing! But if you have the balls to do it, it might be decisive for what your next move should be. Because sometimes, rekindling love is not possible or is not worth it.
This place is already imprinted with your love so you will not be able to stop comparing yourselves as a couple in that moment to how you are in the present. The best part is, you both might find out that even if the butterflies went away, you remained with a solid love which is able to defeat any obstacle.
An anniversary is a great opportunity to think about your relationship or marriage and celebrate the love which brought you together in the first place. It is also the perfect moment to charge yourself with good emotions, try that new thing you always wanted and create couple memories which will last a lifetime.
But the ultimate advice for a great anniversary getaway is to still keep your expectations moderate and try to enjoy even the unpredictable. Because reality always has the means to spoil even the best plan.
Whatever love duration theory you prefer, there is not too much debate in the fact that love needs to be periodically rekindled in order to survive. It is just not realistic to expect that everything is pink and sparkly all the time, without working on your happiness or without offering love a right context to manifest itself.
And what a better opportunity to rekindle feelings, spice up things in the bedroom and spend quality time with your significant other than your couple’s anniversary? Anniversaries celebrate the moment you two met or the moment you married and they are charged with the thrilling emotions that once made you choose each other. Even more, like the French philosopher Pascal Bruckner expressed in Paradox of Love, the thing that once made you not only say yes to each other but also say no to all the rest of human beings who populate planet Earth.
This article aims to inspire you on how to spend your anniversary and defeat (at least for some time) the main enemy of long-term love – routine. A romantic getaway will usually do the trick and what follows are a few ideas of some special vacations and their romantic potential.
But keep in mind, the first step for a successful anniversary experience is to not forget the date of your anniversary. As obvious as it sounds, an impressive number of men are still suffering short term amnesia when it comes to this special date in the calendar!
All-inclusive at the seaside
This is the classical idea of a romantic getaway, but its lack of originality is well compensated by the obvious advantages. The sun, the sand, the cocktails by the beach and the luxurious hotel will help you relax and make it easy to enjoy each other. You have minimal chances to fail if you make this proposal, but the scenario works best if you both have very stressful lives and crave moments of peace and comfort.
No need to mention that the possibilities for a sexual rediscovery are endless. You can perhaps try the nudist area of the beach if you’ve never done it before and enjoy your bodies in sight of all the people around. And you can even attract even more intriguing looks with the pretext of applying sun protection on yourselves.
You can go beyond the beaten path, after enjoying the sunset, and get intimate in the middle of the outdoors, with the added adrenaline rush thinking of the possibility of being caught. Or you can spend an entire night by the beach, talking about all the subjects that you were too busy to approach before, hugging each other to keep warm and then catch the sunrise together.
Backpacking outside your comfort zone
If on the contrary you don’t need peace, but adventure (and by this, I mean real adventure!) you could try a backpacking experience that will further bond you as a couple and generate memorable stories. You can go out on a limb and choose that distant land where you always wanted to go or just stay closer to home. All the options will give you the feeling that you participate in The Amazing Race reality show and that you are not only a couple, but a team.
The best thing about this experience is that you will not only travel together, but plan together. Unlike the seaside resort idea, you will always have subjects to discuss beyond yourselves and this might feel extremely comfortable for couples that face communication blocks. After you’ve had a lively conversation about the bus timetables, it might be easier to dive into a long postponed love declaration.
The scenario works best for sociable and adventurous couples. It is more easily perceived as a good plan for youngsters and it might be the best plan for ageing couples experiencing midlife challenges. If you are already passed your youth, backpacking makes you feel young. And you can add extra adventure if you are up for it, by deciding to hitch-hike, sleep in hostels and meet with locals by using the available apps.
Tent escape in the middle of nature
The tent escape idea is kind of a mix between the previous two proposals – you will have both plenty of time alone and some adventure. And beyond this, you will have a very small space which needs to be shared, so you can’t avoid getting closer to each other, both physically and emotionally.
A big advantage of this scenario is that you will not need so many days off from your workplace, the plan works well for a weekend and you don’t even need to go very far away. The practical advantages go even further – it is the lowest budget idea you can think of, especially if you already own the tent. Unless you go glamping of course.
Beyond the more predictable tent sex, you can spice up this idea with outdoor sex. And if you happen to be a little kinkier, don’t forget to bring some rope! But the possibilities are not limited to sexy times. You can learn together about birds or trees or medicinal plants and then engage in birdwatching or picking up the right mushrooms from the forest.
A long cruise where everything can happen. Including nothing
Cruises are romantic, we all know it from the movies. Hopefully not the Titanic kind of romantic, even if this would certainly make for a good story. You will be stuck with your significant other, in the middle of the sea, usually in a small cabin, without the possibility of escape, no matter what happens. You can customize your cruise, based on length, the types of destinations included and themes.
This getaway idea works best if you are both a little bit old fashioned. It can be a very good idea if you tend to be rather impulsive and look for escapes from arguments. Under these circumstances, this is no longer a possibility, so you will be forced to face any inconvenience together. If a long cruise is beyond reach, you can also go for a long trip by train. Should I mention the possibility of a blowjob in a Turkish style toilet? Maybe not…
Erotic getaway in a sexy hotspot
If you already talked about trying something outside the sexual mainstream but you didn’t feel comfortable to go for it in the city you live, you can use your anniversary getaway for this very reason. Having this in mind, you can still enjoy the sights of a different city, the time together and all the excitement of travel.
Be aware though that this experience can make a couple more stable and loving or it could bring further arguments inside your relationship. Don’t go for it unless you have shared in advance your detailed views about how things should go, including any limits you have.
Also, keep in mind that if you want to try BDSM or a swingers club in a foreign country you will need to contact the club beforehand and ask for their access procedures.
That place where you went together and it was so great
Lastly, the most controversial idea about an anniversary getaway is to go to a place from your history, that single place you associate with the peak of your relationship. It might be the place you met or the one where you had your first romantic getaway or any place where you really enjoyed your time together. There is a huge chances for this to turn out both extraordinary and depressing! But if you have the balls to do it, it might be decisive for what your next move should be. Because sometimes, rekindling love is not possible or is not worth it.
This place is already imprinted with your love so you will not be able to stop comparing yourselves as a couple in that moment to how you are in the present. The best part is, you both might find out that even if the butterflies went away, you remained with a solid love which is able to defeat any obstacle.
An anniversary is a great opportunity to think about your relationship or marriage and celebrate the love which brought you together in the first place. It is also the perfect moment to charge yourself with good emotions, try that new thing you always wanted and create couple memories which will last a lifetime.
But the ultimate advice for a great anniversary getaway is to still keep your expectations moderate and try to enjoy even the unpredictable. Because reality always has the means to spoil even the best plan.
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